Fix issues with defaults options and some types

[edausq]

Default option 'family' is supported only by hash sets except for
hash:mac and default options 'hashsize' and 'maxelem' are supported only
by hash sets. This patch deletes from default_options theses options,
depending to the type name.

This fixes issues when working with some types

# ipset create foo bitmap:port family inet hashsize 1024 maxelem 6553
ipset v6.12.1: Unknown argument: `family'
Try `ipset help' for more information.

According to the man page

family { inet | inet6 }

This parameter is valid for the create command of all hash type sets except for hash:mac.

hashsize

This parameter is valid for the create command of all hash type sets.

maxelem

This parameter is valid for the create command of all hash type sets.

[edausq]

For information, this patch is in production for several months.